Updated: Sep 19, 2021
I took a selfie and went OMG-delete-that-now- this-never-happened.
That was was the day I realised I was no longer young. So the next time I took a selfie was not before I put on foundation, three shades of ' natural' eye shadows, two types of lipstick and tried to look like it was a moment..captured just like that. Yes, we get better and better with each passing year in so many ways. But here is the harsh truth.
Our experience doesn't seem to count as much as how young we can get away with looking..
This needs to change, this needs to change now and the only way to do this I realise is to fill our inner lives up, keep our brains excited about things beyond just us, and keep learning.
That's my mantra.
But guess what- another area where beauty standards are unrealistic for women especially in India is when it comes to our hair. Indian women are expected to have a lot of thick lustrous hair. But the truth is, most of us don't. have. And that is what I learnt when I met someone who runs an extensions and wig shop in Delhi.
Our meeting prompted me to do this story for The Quint where I got my dream hair by literally clipping it on.
And this is no ordinary hair. To learn about the ' roots' of this hair that is exported around the world, see my story here, where I also meet the amazing Lisa Ray. Lisa Ray, actress, model and author told me something very moving about what playing the role of a 'tonsured' widow in Deepa Mehta's ' Water' impacted her.